My darling Dano and I celebrated one month of marriage last week.
I heard a comment from an unnamed source, stating that it was amusing to them when young people celebrate a month, six months, or even a year of marriage.
“That’s nothing. Make it to forty years,” they said, “and then you have something to brag about.”
I’ll admit, I initially felt a little bit embarrassed that I had celebrated such a seemingly insignificant thing.
I was only embarrassed for a moment, however.
I began pondering this idea that only a minimal number of years qualifies for celebration.
It’s completely absurd, to be honest.
In my opinion, these days that were referred to as “nothing” hold so much to celebrate.
The thing is- When Daniel and I got married, our entire life changed. Everything we knew was instantly different. Our home environment, our finances, our bank accounts, our schedules, and our priorities were all shifted. And then there was the whole sex thing. With Daniel and me both being virgins, it added an entirely new, exciting, terrifying, and frustrating dynamic to our relationship, but I’ll save all that for another day.
The point is, we were faced with so many new things, so many changes, and so many emotions. Our hearts were full of love and joy, and at the same time, our lives were instantly full of challenges.
In a period of thirty-one days, we overcame more than we ever imagined. We learned more about communication and unconditional love than we had in our entire relationship prior to becoming one. We faced difficult decisions financially, and overcame our fears, together. We faced vulnerability on a level neither of us had experienced in our entire lives, and we faced it together. We experienced frustrations, we experienced disappointments and failures, and we experienced victory.
We believe that every season comes with its ups and downs, and in every season the victory is worthy of being celebrated. We are quite certain that our second month of marriage will hold its own challenges, its own lessons, and its own victories.
And it’s likely we will celebrate those just the same.
And in the seasons where the challenges may be few, we will also celebrate.
Celebrating is so much more than a party. It’s a way of life, and it changes us.
Unity. When we overcome something together or reach a goal together, celebrating reminds us that we are on the same team. It brings us closer as we remember where we came from, and whether it was a challenging season or a total breeze, acknowledging that we made it through together unifies us.
Intimacy. As celebrating provokes unity, unity provokes intimacy. The more unified Daniel and I feel, the safer we feel to be intimate with one another. When we know we are on the same team and reaching for the same goals, it helps us trust one another not only emotionally, but also physically and spiritually.
Motivation. We are result-oriented people. When Daniel and I take time to celebrate our success, no matter how small, it motivates us to succeed even further. When we see results, we are inspired to see more results, and we are equipped with a greater confidence to go after those results.
Positivity. When we celebrate we focus on the good. It doesn’t mean we ignore what has been difficult, but it shifts our focus to the beauty of our situations and circumstances, causing us to confront and acknowledge the positive.
Thankfulness. As our focus is shifted to the positive, we simply can’t help but be thankful. Celebration is the acting out of that appreciation. When we celebrate we are openly, genuinely, whole-heartedly expressing gratitude for the positive. We are choosing to acknowledge all that we have to be thankful for.
And we believe that in every single season there is much to be thankful for.
And for that, we will celebrate. We will celebrate a month, two months, a year, 7 years, 30 years and everything between.